You are so….strange


Is sarcasm a form of humor? How about a comment made  facetiously?  If you are cynical, are you humorless?

So much for …’marching to the beat of a different drummer.’  People become dog groomers for all sorts of reasons.   We say we love dogs.   How many of us continue to learn about dogs?  I wonder.

I know I chose to groom dogs because I  not only loved being with dogs, but I wanted to learn to make them look good. That’s not really important in the general scheme of things, but I am going to spill a secret:  I have Asperger’s Syndrome.  I am  odd.  I  realized that’s what it was when I read Tempel Grandin’s Book, Thinking in Pictures.  At least 2 of my siblings have it, & it’s not unusual for Jews to be afflicted.  We  are ‘flappers’ as  toddlers:  waving our hands & screaming in frustration.  We are visually oriented and  very articulate.  Most important, we tend to either miss or disregard social cues.

One of the most unfriendly things someone said to me  was being called rude for hanging up a telephone without saying “Good-bye.”  The person I allegedly hung up on didn’t call me rude. She hung up first!  Someone was listening to my end of the conversation!  She had no idea that the person I was talking to  also had Asperger’s & she hung up first.  That person had a Ph.D. in psychology!

Yep—-guilty.  I have Asperger’s.  Google that.  I know my personality was why I chose to work with dogs.  I also  got an undergraduate degree in anthropology (those wacky humans!)…

I don’t have a filter.  I will tell you straight out what I think, & if the emperor isn’t wearing any clothes, oh, well.    I try to be tactful and use humor, but if you  neglect your dog or take advantage of me, I don’t suffer fools gladly. I have no patience for stupidity or for people who expect others to compensate for their lack of  research or forethought, impulsive behavior,  or greed.  I was raised that way, and it is  difficult enough  to be Jewish in a gentile world.  We Jews have had to assimilate and operate on a Christian calendar.  We have to pay for  your unplanned for & unwanted children and pets when you all think it’s ‘God’s Will’, so YOU won’t take responsibility.

I have compassion for the kids, but contempt for the parents.  American society is set up to accommodate these people.  The elites cater to their  carelessness…it createa a cheap labor pool.  In reality, it creates a pool of thugs who prey on the rest of us.  Capitalist economics can not absorb that many humans.  Jobs are not created fast enough.  If we don’t have a  social safety net (which we need for the elderly & handicapped), and are not providing food, health care, & housing, the only way the  surplus humans can survive is by stealing, thievery, and scamming.

It was that accident of fate:  me working for Ashish Sen, and  his suggestion that I apply to his  program —Urban Planning & Policy at the University of Illinois—that  was the reason I got a master’s degree in planning.    If I wanted to be employed, however, I would have had to leave my home and community. I did that by joining Peace Corps.

What  Peace Corps doesn’t  address is the emotional stress you  will endure.  Some do better than others.  Many  ‘early terminate‘.  Most early terminate due to lack of support from Peace Corps  or other entities  which could provide support, but don’t.  No matter.

When I returned from Peace Corps service, my mentor told me to take any job I could find (this was at the end of the 1st President Bush admin—in the early 1990s). So, I worked for  some badly run not-f0r-profits.  I finally returned to grooming dogs. The pay and hours were much better and not nearly as frustrating.  But more—-people are afraid to bother you when you have a scissors in your hands.  It’s you—& the dog.  Strange?  If you know you are strange, that you might be mentally ill (or has a syndrome) are you  not as good as the people who judge you?

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